Living Our Vows is definitely celebrating LOVE this month.
If you remember from last week....this month,
we are celebrating couples who have been together 10 years and or more.
Again, i am honored to have these amazing ladies share their stories and experiences with us.
I know i am learning a lot and hopefully you are learning a lot too.
Enjoy the lovely Latorsha as she shares with us how her and the hubby are living their vows!
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I am so flattered that Mrs. Pancakes offered me this great opportunity to be featured in the living our vows series. Before we get started I have to tell you I was concerned at first that I wouldn't live up to post expectations. And then the bulb went off!!
I just gotta be me and tell it like it IS!
Marriage - it's about give and take aka for better or for worse.
Marriage is full of joy and bliss! Kisses and hugs! AND some heartaches and pains.
Let me tell you what you don't want to hear first so I can end on a positive note.
That's how I like to do. For worse I thought having a second adult in the house would be ideal for keeping things neat and tidy. Nope. Two totally different definitions and priorities.
Some days when I see his dirty clothes laying on the floor beside the hamper I wanna take a lighter and burn them into flames. But I don't. Not yet anyway. Telling each other what to do. This can get really touchy.
I mean he ain't my daddy and I ain't his momma. Just because we live together and said “I do” doesn't mean I gotta do what he says do. Hmph! Where's the money honey? I don't know!!
Last time I saw it, it was being sucked from our acct to pay some bank fees or some bills, I mean a latte and a treat. I mean I worked full time for years and supported the marriage. I deserve something! Right?
These are just a few examples of some our for worse moments.
Trust that there are others.
Sometimes I just wanna take a frying pan
make him do things MY WAY!
For better My husband will go out of his way to get me something that I want.
Please note that I said want not need. For example for years I wanted a Coach bag but always felt like I couldn't spend that much on a large bag for myself. So one Christmas he traveled to the Coach outlet and bought me 2 of them! No matter how irritated we get with one another we always admit that we have to work through the problems cause ain't nobody else gonna take us in.
We laugh in adversity.
When our financial situation took a turn deep south,
we found joy in remembering we could survive on cereal, bread, beans, and water.
Okay. I know. The for better moments sound kind of cheesy.
But I used these moments because the joy in the obvious moments wouldn't get my point across.
The point is you must know how to make a worse situation better.
Marriage ain't easy! But it is worth it.
For better or for worse you gotta stick with it and give it your best every day.
If I'd walked away during the first not so good days I never would have been blessed in so many ways. I wish I could list all the blessings here, but this post would go on forever. I'll just leave you with this thought, God will show favor over those who keep him first.
I am so thankful that God has continued to show favor over our marriage of nine years.
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Latorsha, is the blogger of
Life is Hard, Laugh Anyway, a place where she tries to remain optimistic by any means necessary, mostly laughter. She can be described as a southern girl, loves life, fun, dry humor, sometimes crazy, sometimes serious, fabulous 30 something, got my sexy back, wanna be diva, down to earth, keeping it real, momma don't play that, trying to stay positive.......and sometimes broke.
To learn more you can follow her on twitter at
@AnOptimisticMom. You can check out her blog
here or contact her at AnOptimisticMom@ gmail.com
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Thank you Lartosha for keeping it real as always...i so agree that Marriage ain't easy! But it is worth it!
It is definitely refreshing to meet a couple who are honest
and keep laughter in their marriage regardless of what the for better, for worse of life has to offer!
Question of the Day:
What helps you and your spouse (fiance, boyfriend)
to keep you going during the for worse parts of your relationships?
