Thursday, May 10, 2012

Would You Be Upset?


Happy Almost Friday Ladies....
Today i woke up and wished it was Friday...it's been one of those weeks.
I am excited for Friday...hope I am not alone!!
But since today is Thursday, let's move onto today's post...

I read this question in Redbook and thought i would share it here.
Of course i don't have the question in front of me so i will be improvising.

Question:

My husband always calls his mother first on Mother's Day before he says anything to me.
I am not happy about this because i am his wife and the mother of his children,
he should be wishing me Happy Mother's Day first and foremost.
What should i do? Please help?

Sincerely,
Upset Mama!

The dilemma husbands can experience on Mother's Day.
The plight mother's have to go through on Mother's Day.
I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter.
If you were giving this lady advice, what would you say to her?
Does she have the right to be upset?
Would you be upset?

26 comments:

Sunshine said...

I think I would be a little upset especially if I am the first person he sees.

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This Cookn' Mom said...

I would be upset. He wakes up next to me and ignores me to find his phone and call his mom for Mother's Day...nope.

Faith said...

hmm, so he wakes up and he sees her first, right? that would bother me. why should or would he wait to talk to his mother first before telling his wife Happy Mother's Day if his wife is right there. yeah, i would be upset.

CeCe @Frugalista Married said...

I'm not a mama so I don't know from experience but I don't think I would be upset. You are not his mom. His mom is his mom and she has been his mom for 20-30 years (don't know his age). Yes, you are the mother of his children and I think he should acknowledge and shower you with love and appreciation for it (and if he doesn't that's what I'd be upset about) but I think it's okay that he thought of his actual mom first. My sister is a mom this year but she's not my mom so I don't think it's necessary to give her a gift for it like I do my mom but some do for every mom in their life whether it's their actual mom or not and might think that's rude-but I don't.

CeCe @Frugalista Married said...

Oh, but yeah. I don't know why he couldn't just say those 3 words first if you are right there.

Alexa said...

I talked to my husband about this. This will be my second Mother's Day and he remembered last year and got me the sweetest gift, but he says, it's an odd concept for him to wrap his head around. I mean "mom" is always mom right? It's different when it's your wife. I do think that this person's husband should probably say Happy Mother's day to his wife first. I mean why not, you know?

Monica said...

I'm with CeCe I think men definitely see this differently than women do. While its weird if they are right next to each other not to say something its not wrong for him to want to share that moment with his mother because it is Mothers Day and she gave him life.

Nylse said...

Me personally, no. Life's too short.
Here's my thoughts - has the wife ever expressed this to her husband? If he explained his feelings to her, even if she doesnt agree at least she knows where he's coming from. My MIL did an amazing job with my husband, so I personally dont care when he calls her. I'm always the wife and mother of his children and nothing diminishes that.

Optimistic Mom said...

I probably wouldn't get upset....probably because I usually have to remind him to cal his mom. LOL
However, I think that the person should express her concern to her husband and he probably will share his thoughts. If she never asks about it, she won't know.

kita said...

I wouldn't care at all because I have a son and I would love to hear my son tell me happy mothers day first thing in the morning. My hubs texts his mother so I have never experienced that but I can understand both sides.

His Little Lady said...

oh gosh, i'm not a mother myself so i'm not the best person to be giving advice, but i definitely find it a little odd that her husband wouldn't say something in bed before getting up and calling his own momma. i say she has every right to be upset, and she just needs to tell her man in a calm way how she feels.
xo TJ

Emmy said...

If he is waking up next to his wife of course he should say it to her first- it isn't like his mom would know or should care. As long as he calls his mom too then that is great.
But yes, that is kind of weird that he does that.

MrsTDJ said...

Nope, I wouldn't be upset. I'm NOT his mother. She didn't say that he failed to acknowledge the day or honor the mother of his children, but again, the wife is NOT his mother. I'd be fine with it.

Alida said...

I would not be upset at all...I am not his mother. My children are great at making sure I feel special as a mom. If my husband spoke to his mother first on Valentines Day that would be a different story!!

Bravoe Runway said...

I read this article too! I've not been through child labor so I have no idea but I think a husband should say happy mother's day to his wife :)

Kish said...

Me first! ;)

THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

I definitely would be upset. It's not that much of an effort to say it to his wife first.

Have a great weekend! xoxo

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

Maybe it's because I'm not a mom but sounds like A) There's some underlying issue or B) This person need to get over herself. This is SO petty and there are bigger issues in the world.

Get over it.

Teresha@Marlie and Me said...

I don't know what to say. It seems that these made up holidays always cause more drama than delight. I speak from experience

Mindy said...

Who he tells it to first only becomes a big deal if you make it a big deal! I don't see why the husband cares so much about who gets told to it "first". I find that ... really, super weird. BUUUT, on the other hand for wifey: I would just be SO thrilled to have a husband and to be a mother, I wouldn't care if my husband told it to his mom first. In fact, I wouldn't care much for Mother's Day , I would celebrate my blessings EVERY day!

agapewoman said...

I wouldn't be upset because it's his mother, I want to make sure he's good to her because it will reflect on his relationship with me. My husband is my girl's step dad, I know he loves them and he takes very good of me on Mother's Day. This is the first year we don't have his mom, so my perspective is different.....let's pick our battles. Great blog!

Ayodeji said...

I would not be upset. I am NOT his mother. It sounds really petty. Now, think about it this way, it will be like a man getting upset that his wife didn't say happy father's day to him first. Yeah, he is her husband and the father of her children, but he is NOT her father. :-/

amy b.s. said...

i'll have to get back to you on this next year when i'm a mom...

Dani @ OK, Dani said...

Everyone above said my thoughts already. I would be PISSED. and He'd know it.

Amanda said...

I think I would be upset, but I also think it's trivial because as long as he says it and does something wonderful to show how much he appreciates you, his mom was his mom first...

Carissa said...

I'm late to the conversation...just catching up on reading some blogs. But I would be upset and I agree with Dani...he would know it! If you wake up and see me first you need to say Happy Mother's Day to me first.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Genesis 2:24