Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Falling In Love with Baby Series: Quiana




Falling in Love with My Baby
By Quiana Agbai, Harlem Love Birds


When I first saw the title of this guest-post series I thought of my other baby – 


my husband and the harsh reality of displacement
that often happens when a newborn arrives. 
I have to admit, I gave my husband a very hard time 
during those first few post-partum weeks. 
Thinking back on it I cringe. 
I seriously felt like a mama bear ready to 
attack anyone at moment’s notice and since 
he was in close proximity he received the brunt of my fury.

I instantly felt a bond with Nia, my now 2 year old daughter, 
when she was born and yes, I loved her 
but I definitely waned in the feeling of “being in love” at times
during my recovery from my 4th degree tear 
and frustration with learning how to breastfeed. 

Falling in love with my baby and falling in love 
with my husband definitely had similarities 
and I often wonder if we were all in love 
with each other at some point.
I imagine our ships of love passing each other. 
As my father told me with romantic love and relationships,
a couple is rarely on the same percentage level of love
and contribution to the partnership at any given time
.

I see this truth being played out even now with my baby especially. 
As her personality developed and she moved
from being a little blob (and I mean that in an endearing way!)
to having a full blown personality and reminding me of myself in the process,
I’ve found myself falling in love with her and the little person she’s becoming.
And isn’t that our goal in parenthood - to help our children reach adulthood successfully?

When I see glimpses of myself in her and quirks 
that make me thinks she’s bit crazy (but always cute) 
I feel an overwhelming sense of love for her – actually being in love with her.
I say to myself, “Nia is going to be one special woman someday!”
I may not like her tomorrow when she has a rough time
as we’re  presently undergoing potty training 
or I trip over her spilled blocks for the umpteenth time
although I told her to put them away, but I do know 
that I am in a continual ebb and flow of falling in (and out of) love with my baby.





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Thank you Quiana, i am inspired reading this and cannot wait
 to continue falling in love with Baby Pancakes.
If you don't know Quiana and her lovely family (Nia is adorable btw)...
hurry on over and check her out:


9 comments:

Rod and Alex - aka: "Rolex" said...

I'm definitely in love with this series! I often wonder how my relationship will change with Rod when we have "Little Rolex" (someday, in -hopefully- the near future). Will our love strengthen and grow with our love for a new little one?
I also wonder about how I will feel about the little one. Will it be an instant bond? Or will it take time?
This series gives me a little insight into motherhood and falling in love with your baby! :)

Schnelle A. said...

Beautiful piece Quiana!

Popcorn, Pugs & Peonies said...

I loved this piece. It makes me look forward to one day becoming a mother myself.

*Erin

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

What a beautiful piece!

Bravoe Runway said...

What a great post, they say a baby changes everything!

Monique said...

so heartfelt and honest. Will certainly check her blog out.

Quiana said...

Thank you everyone for your kind feedback!

Camille said...

This post is so beautiful.

I wonder how I will feel with the next one...I know I will love them more than anything, but how will it be different?

Cheers.

Collinsttuc said...

I loved this piece. It makes me look forward to one day becoming a mother myself. *Erin