Tuesday, September 20, 2011

A Ditty of Marriage!


I found this poem on Brooke Burke's website, modernmom.com and loved it.
It said everything i believe about making marriage a good one and thought i would share it with you. I have a little girl crush on Brooke Burke so of course i was excited she felt the same way about marriage that i did! Hope you like it! (i am not sure about the female crushes...i am just going with it this week!)









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The Art Of A Good Marriage

Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

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I am striving everyday to be the best partner i can be to Mr. Pancakes 
and i believe he is doing the same thing.

Do you have any ditties that you go to about marriage, love or relationships?!

26 comments:

jacin {lovely little details} said...

oh i love that - something i should read more often!

Rod and Alex - aka: "Rolex" said...

I really really love this! I can't wait to get home tonight and read it to Rod! Thanks for sharing!

An Irish Italian Blessing said...

Oh, I SO LOVE THIS! I'm the same way when it comes to my marriage! Mr. Pancake is one lucky man to have you as his wifey!

Teenage Bride said...

that is so true.... you have to be GOOD spouse if you want your spouse to be good to you.

Cam - Bibs and Baubles said...

I love the last line about being the right partner. It's so true. I can't expect my husband to sweep me off my feet all the time if I never return the favor!

toi said...

Very nice poem. Thanks for sharing :).

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

Oh I love that.

This is one of my favorites:

Falling In Love Is Like Owning A Dog
By Taylor Mali

First of all, it's a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.

Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

Sunshine said...

Love it!

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Angela said...

Ooo, I love that! Especially the last few lines. Thanks SO much for sharing! :)

~ Angela
grahamandangela.blogspot.com

Newlywed and Decorating said...

Great poem! Marriage is so wonderful, isn't it!

A Beautiful Mess said...

This sums it all up! Such a sweet and happy poem!

Vandy said...

GO TEAM Pancakes! :)

I loved what I read! Great post! It's super important to remember those things in a marriage! Thank you so much for sharing this; can I refer to your post in a future post about l.o.v.e :) ?

Bravoe Runway said...

I am not married and probably won't be anytime soon so I am not quite sure if I can provide any suggestions. The poem however does sound like you have to take things realistically and one day at a time. Thank you for sharing. As for how do I put these awesome outfit posts together? Expansive wardrobe and the love to try new things and the desire to wow my readers so they'll want to come back for more :)

Mrs. Pancakes said...

This poem is definitely amazing for marriage. Um Krysten...i love your poem about LOVE! beautiful.

Dana said...

I really like the poem. Thanks for sharing.

Elizabeth and Kyle @ Love Is the Adventure said...

I just love that image of standing together to face the world. I feel that way all the time. I came home to Kyle tonight and just about burst into tears telling him how much I missed him today through all the stressful moments. It was such a relief to tell him everything and feel him holding me close.

This is probably my favorite song about marriage. It's an old one by Steven Curtis Chapman and my brother sang it at our wedding almost five and a half years ago...

"Tomorrow morning if you wake up
And the sun does not appear,
I will be here.

If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
‘Cause I will be here.

I will be here when you feel like being quiet;
When you need to speak your mind, I will listen.
And I will be here when the laughter turns to crying;
Through the winning, losing, and trying, we’ll be together,
‘Cause I will be here.

Tomorrow morning if you wake up
And the future is unclear,
I will be here.

As sure as seasons are made for change,
Our lifetimes are made for years,
So I will be here.

I will be here, so you can cry on my shoulder;
When the mirror tells us we’re older, I will hold you.
And I will be here to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me;
I will be here.

I will be true to the promise I have made,
To you and to the One who gave you to me.

As sure as seasons are made for change,
Our lifetimes are made for years,
So I will be here.
We'll be together and I will be here."

Sophia Chang said...

Well you'll be glad to hear that Brooke Burke is a very nice lady in real life as well. I was over at her house many many years ago and she is a consummate mom!

I'm definitely going to email this poem to my bf! Such a sweet one!

Marina said...

Great poem!

Nellie said...

Loved this poem, thank you!

Mrs. Pancakes said...

Elizabeth, that song is beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Sophia...you are too cool!

OurLifeUnrehearsed said...

Love this poem although I've heard it before. Couldn't have come at a better time for me too, when people are under stress they don't realize their behavior and attitudes. Thanks for sharing.

Alicia@ Mommy Delicious said...

This is beautiful! It is not marrying the right partner, but being the right partner... so true! Thanks for sharing this. It's a good lesson for us single gals.

Saying I do said...

Love this! thanks for sharing!

Faith said...

i just loved reading that! it is so right on! thanks for sharing! :)

Emma (ecoprincess) said...

Oh my gosh, this poem is so beautiful, I really loved it, and I'm now thinking about having it read out at our wedding!

Mrs. Pancakes said...

Awesome Emma...I thought about the same thing!