Monday, December 5, 2011

May-December Romances


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We are going to make Monday work for us...
Good day my amazing blogger friends...
I really do enjoy spending part of my day with you all!
Thanks for reading and sharing your comments.
I really do appreciate them all!
Now onto today's conversation...

Recently i heard a couple say...
people were judging her May-December romance with her husband.  
She is in her early twenties.  
Her husband is almost in his mid-fifties. 
 Together they have a one year-old child.  
When she is with him people think her husband is her father.  
And when he is with his child, people think that's his grandchild.  

May-December Romances have been occuring for ages and was socially acceptable.   
However today..there are many people who frawn upon it.  
Others support people's right to be with whomever they want...

The reason it's referred to as May-December (some readers were wondering):
The phrase comes from the:
 younger person being in the "spring" of his or her life (May), 
while the older partner is in his or her "winter" (December)

Where do you stand on this topic?
Are you yea or nay for May-December relationships?
And of course...why?








(thank goodness for celebrities who give me plenty of examples)

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44 comments:

Oneika said...

I think that their relationships are their business. I have definitely seen some May-December romances where it appeared that mutually benefitting from each other (in one case, a rich older man was benefitting from his young pretty companion, and the young lady basked in the older man's wealth). As long as both parties are happy, more power to them!

Marisa A. said...

Personally I don't see myself with someone who is twice my age, but that is just me. As long as people are happy who cares? Just let them be.

THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

I totally support it. It's really up to the couple involved. Nobody should judge who a person falls in love with.

Have a happy Monday, sweetie! xoxo

Mrs. H said...

Really it's frowned upon?!?!? That news must have surely missed Miami. I have a friend that is 33 and her husband is 64. They're expecting their first baby early 2012. I have another friend that 25 and her husband is 57. I don't see anything wrong with it love is love. For sure the society I live in

Mrs. H said...

Oopps comment got cut off but my immediate society doesn't frown upon it. Not here in miami. It's very very common.

ASingleMothersJourney said...

I see nothing wrong with it. Most of the guys I've dated have been older. What should matter is how the person treats them and as long as the relationship works for them it shouldn't matter what anyone else think.

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This Cookn' Mom said...

You can not control who you fall in love with. I am all for it!

Ebbs said...

I support it because I find it hard to judge someone relationship based on age. If they truly love each other, I'm all for it.

JustPatience said...

I would say, as long as the tow parties are truly in love then why not. Love is hard to find.

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Heather said...

I personally feel it's none of my business, and that if a couple is truly in love, no one has a right to stand in the way. That said, I believe there are older men who prey upon younger women and younger women who take advantage of older men for their money, or vice versa. Those scenarios don't quality as true love in my eyes.

Mrs. Pancakes said...

being the product of a May-December marriage...i do believe true love doesn't matter where age is concerned but i do agree with Heather on the preying/advantage taking which occurs in these relationships.
@Nini...some places are definitely more accepting than others...
--it was just sad there was a lot of ridicule this young person felt for marrying the other person due to other people's prejudices...

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Optimistic Mom said...

I say do whatever makes you happy. Who am I to judge? People who are the same age mess marriages up all the time...... So if a couple is making it work, high five to them!

CC [AKA Frugalista] said...

Never heard the term May-December romances. Why is it called that anyways? I don't see myself being attracted to someone that many years older then me but that's just me. I mean, I can't even imagine dating a 70 year old. If it's true love then it's love. I do know that sometimes it's not-but that's the same possibility with any age combo relationship.

Diedra B said...

I neither approve nor disapprove. Consenting adults should decide for themselves. And once the horse has gone through the gate, it is no longer up for discussion.

However, if someone asked my personal advice before getting into a serious relationship with someone more than 15 years older, I would suggest they reconsider. One word: diapers.

I don't think many people stop to consider down the road when they are old and gray, except one person is much older, much grayer, and perhaps not even the same person they married just a few years prior. Marriage is already VERY hard. I would not recommend a man or a woman to take on that additional challenge unnecessarily.

Claire said...

I never asked anyone what they thought of my now-husband so I dont really feel like I have the right to comment on other peoples relationships whatever age they are, whatever race they are and whatever they do for a living..why should people care about my opinion when i couldnt give a rats arse what they think of me and mine :)

Vanisha @ Vanisha's Life In...Australia said...

I don't have an opinion on this, it is an individual (partner) decision and everyone has the right to that. Relationships are hard work without people judging and adding to it.

Our Delightful Home said...

As long as the two people involved are truly happy. Thanks all that matters...

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Krystal said...

i never even knew it was called that!!! i'm fine with it, people can be with whoever they want!

Cam | Bibs and Baubles said...

I have no problem with it. Expect in the case of Hugh Hefner... he's just gross!

toi said...

I have no problem with it because love should discriminate age, race or gender.

Mr. Taylor and his Lady said...

i've never heard of a may-december relationship before, but i say as long as they are happy then whatever they wish. besides, i happen to think that michael and catherine are just the sweetest ;)
xo TJ

Rocker Chic said...

Mrs. P

I believe in love! Lol I love your topics I say it all the time you know how to get people talking.

Although I havent been in a relationship like this I have friends who are. Love has no prejudice.

LV said...

I think it depends on how much you have in common and how young the persons spirit is. You can have an older person with twice the energy and zest for life as a younger person. I am in favor of any relationship based on love and commitment, but I must admit, I do get angry when I see men with girls that could be their daughters and I was disgusted with Woody Allen starting a relationship with his daughter. Do I have that right? I think I read somewhere that it was his daughter by adoption. Hmm?? I guess I have mixed feelings about it.

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Johanson Family said...

Gosh, I feel so lost because I have never even heard of May-December relationships... never realized that an age gap was categorized in that title. My Dad is 10 years older than my step mom and was 10 years older than my real mom.. so I guess I'm down with it. Whatever makes you happy and who ever makes you happy! Go for it. :)

Nellie said...

This can get quite tricky, I think its okay as long as it works for the couple...but there may be some moments where they may not have that much in common, or rather when one person gets much older, is the other okay with taking care of them? it can go either way.

natasha {schue love} said...

I think it comes down to personal choice...people mature at different rates, so I can see how it may work. To each their own!

Hilliary@ Happily Ever Healthy said...

I think it is all personal choice. I personally could not see myself with someone twice my age. But I think if a couple is happy then let them be, it comes down to who makes you the happiest!

Tamara Nicole said...

I think if people are in love, sure go for it. BUT sometimes these relationships aren't based on true love . . . like Hugh's relationship lol.

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Monique said...

I say yay as long as it's for love and not for money!

Bonnie said...

While Mr. A isn't twice my age, he is 10 years older than me. So ... Same thing? Eh, close enough.

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Alexa said...

I think that if it works, it works, and it shouldn't be any concern of anyone elses!

Allison said...

I say true love is true love and who is to say otherwise. :) Thanks for stopping by my blog!!

Mimi said...

I say if they are in love, then let them be together. If they wish to bring children into the world that is their right. Love is a beautiful thing, no matter the age of those involved.

Dana said...

I believe love has no age. It is personal choice.

Emily w/Amazing Grapes said...

I, personally am not for it...for myself. But I've seen plenty of people (even a couple bloggers) who are in them and are happy as clams.

The stigma, I think is why is she married to him as so many don't think its for real love but their money, but that's between them, in my opinion.
Emily at Amazing Grapes

Erin said...

You cannot help who you fall in love with!! :) Thanks for stopping by today!

Miss Dre said...

I am yay for a May-December romance. I say, be with whoever makes you happy. Love and happiness transcend age, gender, race, socioeconomic status and all that other jazz.

Jamie said...

All that matters is love. I think it might add some unique challenges to the relationship that a more "traditional" relationship might face but who cares. In the end, all that matters is love.

Raven said...

I'm kind of in a may-december romance? Hubs is 15 years old than me, so I guess? July-december maybe? and I say if you are in love, age ain't nothin' but a number, right? ;)

Domestic Sweetheart said...

I'm just happy for any person(s) who find love! All you need in this world is Love right :)

Mama Violet said...

Yay as long as both people are over 18. It's just a number. Find love where you can get.

Bri said...

I am all for these relationships, love has no age and people should be with whoever makes them happy :)