Thursday, July 5, 2012

Mommylogues: The Makings of a Terrible Mother?

Hope you enjoyed your 4th of July...
and if you are taking an extended weekend...kudos to you!

I have a confession to make...
Are you ready for it?
Today i ran away from this:

Via

Yes...a crying child!

I mean i didn't really run away 
BUT i refused to get on an elevator because the little guy was crying.
I mean he was doing one of those ugly cries...
eyes tightly shut, fingers pulsating, feet dancing..real ugly...
And i didn't think i had to be subjected to that kind of cry in an enclosed space.

So as we were all making our way to the elevator, 
i made a beeline for the mail room...
knowing perfectly well i didn't have ANY mail!

Now is that the makings of a terrible mother or what?
Are these the behaviors of the makings of terrible mother?
Shouldn't i have made the elevator trip with mom and the crying child 
 as a show of solidarity for motherhood?
I wonder...

I felt so bad for the little man's mom ...
Ladies do you want to know why he was ugly crying?
...Because the swimming pool had closed for the day.
And mom kept on saying, "They closed the pool....there is nothing i can do about that."
He obviously didn't believe her...
Now i wonder when he eventually stopped crying?!!

The beauty of this little scenario is that someday soon...
my Baby Pancakes will be ugly crying by no fault of my own 
and someone will refuse to get into the elevator with me.
And i will completely understand....

Question of the Day:
Is this makings of a terrible mother?
Have you escaped a crying child recently?




29 comments:

Evelien said...

I escape them too :)
And I think that is totally ok, because if the mommy could run away too, she would!
I went to the beach with one of my nieces and she was crying because she couldn't pick flowers... Did I say crying? Sorry, I meant SCREAMING!! I felt so embarrased but obviously couldn't do anything about there not being flowers haha!
You'll be a great mom, even if there are some moments you'd rather just go and hide haha :)

Lalla said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog!

I think your reaction is completely normal. It's different when the child is not yours. When my nephews - 4, 3, and 2 - start screaming, some days I attempt to help and other days I quietly head towards the exit. lol. And to be truthful, there are days when Ariana screams that I wish I cold make my own exit. Then I just take a breath and keep on pushing. I adore my daughter, but I'm human too.

Lindsey said...

I think your reaction is totally normal!! And you are a great momma!

Our Delightful Home said...

This is not the making of a terrible mother.

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Mrs. V said...

I'm one of those mom's that can't stand to hear their child cry. Crying doesn't annoy me, it makes me feel sad and that I need to respond immediately to soothe the child. Sometimes when my daughter is crying, I'll slowly back out of the room and have my husband deal with her episode. Especially if she's just acting out. My cuddles and attempts to soothe her give her the wrong impression that having a fit deserves a reward. So, no, I don't think you will be a terrible mother. You'll be a mother who knows when to react to the tears. :-)

kita said...

In the beginning I ran but after 2 kids I am use to crying it does not bother me as much but if that child is crying for too long then I give the evil eye because clearly something is wrong.

Dr. Reginia said...

I would have waited for the next elevator too. Once you become a mom, I think you'll become immune to the crying and behaviors.

Missez B said...

That doesn't make you a terrible mother at all. If you can avoid an ugly cry, why not? You don't have to deal with that right now so its fine. It's not your child and your child may never do that to you in public...on an elevator... :) And if they do yes others will run and hopefully they will be fine with the fact that if they don't have to deal with an ugly cry or any cry, they should be able to avoid him/her.

Also you can be an excellent mother without loving every baby/kid you come in contact with, crying or not.

Optimistic Mom said...

Nope this does not make you a bad mother...... I would have probably done the same thing. BUT mostly out of sympathy for the mom. I know how it feels to have your child acting up and people looking at you. And then the rest of the reason would be because I don't wanna hear it......lol

CeCe @Frugalista Married said...

Nope, it's totally okay to run from other peoples crying kids or even not like other peoples crying kids as long as you grin and bear it when it's your own.

Monique said...

So what I hear is that when other baby's cry it's annoying but when it's your own child it's a lot easier to deal with. We are in LA right now and on the way out there was a baby seated behind us and I was like she's so cute...the parents said wait till she starts crying, and crying she did but not for long..it wasn't as bad as I anticipated. I guess they mentally prepared me. Don't feel bad. You'll deal with your own crying baby soon enough.

Monique said...

So what I hear is that when other baby's cry it's annoying but when it's your own child it's a lot easier to deal with. We are in LA right now and on the way out there was a baby seated behind us and I was like she's so cute...the parents said wait till she starts crying, and crying she did but not for long..it wasn't as bad as I anticipated. I guess they mentally prepared me. Don't feel bad. You'll deal with your own crying baby soon enough.

lifeisfullofsunnydays said...

Perfectly natural reaction. I have taken to asking the crying child why they are crying which in most cases is enough to stop them. Either they are thinking about why or that stranger danger instinct kicks in!! LOL

Angela K said...

This made me smile because similar things have happened to me. It's different when it's YOUR kid, or so I've been told. I love my nieces and nephews to pieces, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy handing them back to their parents when they're crying or tantrumming. I believe it's natural to shy away from things like that. But soon you (and I) will be pros at the "ugly crying." Or so I hope, anyway! :)

Miss Bee said...
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Miss Bee said...

I don't think its the making of a terrible mother. I don't think you should be hard on yourself for feeling that way. It is different when the child isn't yours and am sure the mom in question wishes she could exit but she can't cos she has to take care of the little one...you will make a great mum..just enjoy the moment and don't worry about baby pancakes or any other baby throwing tantrums.

Rose's Daughter said...

I think when it's your own child, you'll think differently!

Amanda @ Life, Experience Needed said...

No, it is not the making of a terrible mom. It's hard to deal with another child crying but your own are totally differnt.

itsmekt said...

LOL I dont have babies, but I have nephews 7 - so needless to say, ive been in both situations!

Mama Violet said...

I try to escape my crying child all the time. I run but she's getting faster. :)

Melissa said...

Don't worry, I don't think that is the makings of a terrible mother. I still avoid "ugly crying" children even if my child is with me. I don't need anyone encouraging her, lol. Hope you have a great weekend!

~xoxo~

toi said...

Don't worry, i don't think you are going to be a bad mum, some children have the ugly, sometimes my AOI does have it if she wants to sleep but can't but that doesn't mean i have to would like another lady to ruin her ears :).

ms.composure said...

aw dont feel bad girl. i have done the same thing! i have been around kids my whole life (and i am no where close to being ready to have my own) but i do find myself shying away from them at times...i guess it may be the mood i am in that day or something else...but i dont know i do the same thing


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Splendor said...

lol no it's not the makings of a terrible mom. I have 3 and when I went to the spa for a pedicure the lady doing it must've had daycare issues b/c her daughter was roaming around the salon. Well before long she was having temper tantrums and throwing things all over the place. I quickly got up and walked out. That's my time for self-pampering and quiet. If I wanted to deal with an unruly child I would've stayed home ;)

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Faith said...

That would def be me! One day when I have to deal with my own screaming child then fine. Until then, running is what I'd do :)

Amy said...

It's easier to deal with your own screaming baby than someone else's :) You are going to be an awesome momma!

THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

Don't be so hard on yourself. It's completely normal. And you should cherish your peace while you can :) xoxo

Sunny LouisvilleSlugger said...

Heck no, that isn't the makings of a terrible mom. My child is here and I'm still not too keen on other people's crying kids. One is enough! lol

Nellie said...

I think this is super funny because you won't be able to run away from your crying baby, you will do every last thing in your power to try to make it stop :) You will be fine, might as well avoid it while you can!