Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Would You Be With Someone...



...with a terminal illness?
This is the question we were debating at work the other day.
Would you date or marry someone with a terminal illness?
And it was intriguing so i thought i would put it out to my bloggy friends?

There are obviously many things to consider with this question 
so i would LOVE your feedback.
There have been many movies and novels written about this topic 
so it will be interesting to discuss here on this blog.
It definitely made for some colorful conversation at the office...
and i hope you'll join in!

Some of the responses included with of course more details:
Yes,
No, 
Mmhmm...
Heck no.
Maybe...
Why Not?

Now it's your turn...

Via







17 comments:

Nellie said...

I haven't been put in that position but I'd like to think that I would. You can't really "not love" someone because they are sick. It would be tough, but worth it for the right person.

Gerri said...

There are a lot of things to consider, and it's hard to say if you're not actually in the situation. But I'm going to pretend that we're talking about my husband, the guy that I actually married. If he'd had a terminal illness before we got married, I definitely would have married him anyway. I think if anyone loves someone enough, the answer to this question is easy.

Desiray said...

I thank God I am not in that situation but it does happen and if you know before you go into the marriage you can make your choice if you can handle it . But once your married you can't leave it's for sickness and in health to death do you part.

kita said...

I think if you love that person then it won't matter. That love that you those two share would probably be better than some of the people married and so called in love these days. I would rather have a love for one day that lasts me a lifetime than live in a horrible love situation where no illness is present.

Faith said...

This is such a tough topic for me because I am already always worried about losing the people I love.

If my husband got sick now, there is no question in my mind that I will be there every moment. He is the love of my life.

Would I purposely get myself involved with someone who was terminally ill knowing that one day they may die because of this illness? I don't think I could.
But to be honest, I don't really know what I would do unless I am actually put in the situation. So this is only what I think I would do.

Carlie said...

That would be such a tough situation. I know since I'm already married that I would say yes. I think I'd say yes still even if we weren't married yet. Then I'd try to have a baby with ASAP! :).

Heather said...

Though I have never been in this situation, I think I would. One of the hardest things for those facing terminal illness is for family and friends to turn their backs on them, because they are afraid of being hurt. Those with terminal illness need love and affection just as much, if not more, than anyone else. I would choose to love someone no matter what.

This Cookn' Mom said...

Honestly, I would not date and proceed to marry someone with a terminal illness. I just would not want to put myself in that situation. I would not want to no that I WILL have to deal with a loss in the near future. I just couldn't. Now, if my husband were to become ill, I would definitely stay and even love him more. We actually talked about this the other day after watching a tragedy on the news.

Popcorn, Pugs & Peonies said...

This is a tough question. I do not think I would knowing get involved with someone who was terminally ill, just because of the emotional impact it would have on me. However, you cannot really choose who you love, and if it did happen, I would deal with it.

*Erin

Bubble My Licorice said...

I'm not sure if I would do that but I wouldn't like to have this dilemma...

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Monique said...

that's a tough one. of course i'd stick it through with hubs to the end but i can't say. i think i'd have to be in it and feel the power of the love between us.

Harlem Green said...

honestly.. if we were already married... no doubt. or we got engaged or had been dating for years yes... going into the situation newly.. i dont think I could. The heartache would be too much,. But the thing is medicine is always changing.... what happens when that person out lives you??

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

This isn't a terminal illness... but I remember when I was planning my first wedding I was on The Knot a lot. A girl on there was planning a wedding to this guy and during the planning he was involved in a horrible motorcycle accident. I can't remember exactly what happened to him but I believe he had some form of brain damage and physical disabilities.

Although at first she was there for him all the time, she eventually broke off the engagement to him.

I can understand where she was coming from but... how can you go from being so in love with someone that you're planning to spend the rest of your life with them to breaking things off like that?

I don't know. Then again, I've never been in that position so I have no idea how I'd really react.

Rocker Chic said...

Hi Mrs.P

I would love someone and be there if they were really ill.

Love breaks all boundaries and it conquers all.

Vanisha @ Vanishas Life In...Australia said...

How interesting...I've never been in that situation and I hope I'm never faced with it but I do know that I could never NOT be with someone just because they had a terminal illness. But I don't know what I would do in a situation like that...

Rod and Alex - aka: "Rolex" said...

Interesting question! It would be very difficult, but yes.

Optimistic Mom said...

I think I could, but I'd probably try not to. I don't do well with the thought of loosing someone, I would hope the good would overcome the down times.
Interesting post.......