Monday, November 12, 2012

Mommylogues: Working Mom

Happy Veterans Day...
Thank you all to the troops and their families (moms/wives/children) 
who sacrifice their time and lives to make our lives safe always.


I've thoroughly enjoyed my time at home with Baby Pancakes
 and i wish there were more days at home with him...
but unfortunately the time has come to return to the work force.  
It's coming along sooner rather than later because of changes 
going on at work that required my attention.

I always knew I wanted to return to work after I had a baby. 
But now that the time has come...
I'm cringing the thought of being away from Baby Pancakes for eight hours.
An hour was tough but a complete work day sounds crazy to me.

 My doubts about this working mom thing persists: 
Am I doing the right thing? 
Will my baby forget me? 
Will he bond more with his caregiver? 
Will he be given the time and attention I would give him? 

The doubts I have are replaced by the comfort that Baby Pancakes 
will be attending Daddy Daycare for now. 
 That's one of the perks of having a self-employed husband.
 It makes me feel good but I think as a working mom...
I will always wonder if I'm doing the right thing by my son? 
And the answer to the question, at least for the time being, is "I hope so."

I am also reminded that many women have been doing this for years,
and not everyone has the luxury of having a family member, 
the father, nonetheless be the primary caregiver so i do feel blessed.
The doubts will not leave all at once but the comfort and peace of mind is there
that Baby Pancakes will be well taken care of.

And I will be able to work from home one day out of the week
so that Mr. Pancakes can do majority of work on this day.
And i can be home with Baby Pancakes.
It's a blessing in disguise to work at a place that will allow me to do this.
My co-workers are also eager to have Baby Pancakes around the office...
so worse case scenario if i had to bring the baby to the office....
everyone would be accepting of this scenario.

Today feels like back to school after a long vacation.
I don't know how I am going to be as a working mom but i am anxious to find out.
I am sure I will be tired at the end of the day BUT 
I know i will find enough energy to spend time with my husband and son.  
And that to me is priceless.

Question of the Day:
How did you transition from home to working mom?
Any advice/encouraging words/mantra?



Rose's Daughter said...

I started back part time. And since I'm a nurse, I had the option of going back at night. So I worked at night and kept Pookah during the day 2 times a week until he was 8 months. It was hard, but so worth it. That being said, I think your set up is great too. It's great that at least one parent can be with baby pancakes all the time.

Miesha Roshawn said...

Those first few months are hard, your baby will not become more attached to his caregiver! There will come a time (believe it or not) possiblely terrible two's and three's where you will gladly drop him off with the sitter lo!

Splendor said...

My husband worked at home when I went back to work when our son was 2. It wasn't as hard b/c I'd call all day, give pointers and strongly suggest he take him to the park so he'd get some play time in. I'd usually be up early enough to make his breakfast and lay out his clothes to make things easier. When my other children started preschool I actually hoped they formed a bond with their caretakers b/c I viewed it as a sign they were being treated very well. Best, S

Nicole said...

It's great you have a supportive workplace! I think it's also great that baby P gets to spend quality time with his daddy. They will have a great father/son bond :)

kita said...

When I had my son I had people to take care of him at home we had a system going and even had a backup so I was ready to go back to work because I knew he was in good hands. I just worry about that daycare I don't mind people I know like dad, grandma, or an aunt but that daycare scares me.

kyna... said...

I remember how hard it was when I had to go back to work awesome that your hubby can watch him though! How blessed you are!
♥ Kyna

Pegster said...

Leaving your baby behind never gets easier I tell you. It's ok to cry and miss him. It's awesome that your hubby will be watching him and that your work in flexible. Take it in stride, in due time you will feel more comfortable with the idea.

I think you will always thing that no one can do a better job than you and that's totally normal. After all you are his mother :).

Good luck Mrs Pancakes. I hope the first few days aren't too hard

Mrs JK said...

I worry about that too when we eventually have our little on and i have top get back to work. But you right, moms have been doing this for years.

Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama said...

yes, the first few months are difficult you are very aware of the time and you miss your baby very very much. Don't be discouraged if there is a milestone you don't see (it will happen) Enjoy the days you have with him.

You have an awesome workplace!!

You will probably be watching him.....a lot LOL

keyalus said...

It will suck but it will get better My husband stayed at home with my son for a year. It was great, but actually a little hard on me at times. I found myself (shamefully) a little jealous of their bond. Like he would cry and then run to Daddy and not me because he spent the majority of the time with him. Sigh. The guilt/conflicting feelings of a hormonal, working mom.

Now that he's older, he enjoys a good relationship with his caregivers at school, but he always prefers Mommy and Daddy. ;)

Carlie said...

I hope it is an easy transition for you! What a huge blessing that your hubs can be home with him!

Carlie said...

I hope it is an easy transition for you! What a huge blessing that your hubs can be home with him!

Rod and Alex - aka: "Rolex" said...

Oh gosh! I don't know what it's like to have to go back to work after having a little one...but I will one day; and I'll be looking to you for advice! Hope it all goes smoothly!
You are so lucky that Mr. Pancakes will be able to watch little Pancakes!

toi said...

i am blessed to be at home with my daughter but if i had to go back to work it would be nice to know that hubby will be home with her... what i'm saying is that feel bless that Mr P is able to take care of him while you are out

Lauren said...

I'm only working 3 days a week and it's still tough. Every morning I have this desire to just throw in the towel & stay home...but I also enjoy my time at work, so it's become this very fragile balancing act of being wife, momma, & employee!

Alicia said...

This is a hard one, isn't it? It was hard for me to return to work too, but I didn't have a choice so return to work I did. LOL. I think it's great that you'll be able to work from home one day per week. I actually think every working mom should have that option and still have the same position, salary, etc.

Maybe one day...