Falling In Love with Baby Series: Quiana

Falling in Love with My Baby

By Quiana Agbai, Harlem Love Birds

When I first saw the title of this guest-post series I thought of my other baby – 

my husband and the harsh reality of displacement

that often happens when a newborn arrives. 

I have to admit, I gave my husband a very hard time 

during those first few post-partum weeks. 

Thinking back on it I cringe. 

I seriously felt like a mama bear ready to 

attack anyone at moment’s notice and since 

he was in close proximity he received the brunt of my fury.

I instantly felt a bond with Nia, my now 2 year old daughter, 

when she was born and yes, I loved her 

but I definitely waned in the feeling of “being in love” at times

during my recovery from my 4th degree tear 

and frustration with learning how to breastfeed. 

Falling in love with my baby and falling in love 

with my husband definitely had similarities 

and I often wonder if we were all in love 

with each other at some point.

I imagine our ships of love passing each other. 

As my father told me with romantic love and relationships,

a couple is rarely on the same percentage level of love

and contribution to the partnership at any given time

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I see this truth being played out even now with my baby especially. 

As her personality developed and she moved

from being a little blob (and I mean that in an endearing way!)

to having a full blown personality and reminding me of myself in the process,

I’ve found myself falling in love with her and the little person she’s becoming.

And isn’t that our goal in parenthood - to help our children reach adulthood successfully?

When I see glimpses of myself in her and quirks 

that make me thinks she’s bit crazy (but always cute) 

I feel an overwhelming sense of love for her – actually being in love with her.

I say to myself, “Nia is going to be one special woman someday!”

I may not like her tomorrow when she has a rough time

as we’re  presently undergoing potty training 

or I trip over her spilled blocks for the umpteenth time

although I told her to put them away, but I do know 

that I am in a continual ebb and flow of falling in (and out of) love with my baby.

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Thank you Quiana, i am inspired reading this and cannot wait

 to continue falling in love with Baby Pancakes.

If you don't know Quiana and her lovely family (Nia is adorable btw)...

hurry on over and check her out:

harlemlovebirds.com

Falling In Love with Your Baby Series: LaTorsha

I am excited to introduce Falling In Love with Baby Series.

I believe there is no other time in our lives as women 

where falling in love is instantaneous than the love we feel

 when we meet our baby for the first time.

Of course...sometimes falling in love with our baby

 is NOT so instantaneous and we have to work at it.

But the best part of falling in love is knowing that this kind of love is magic!

It is unconditional and pure...

it is experienced between a mother and her baby...

And it is beautiful....

i didn't understand that until i had 

Baby Pancakes and i wanted other mothers to share 

with me their thoughts and experiences on Falling In Love with their Baby...

I hope you fall in love with their stories as much as i did...

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A Love I NEVER Knew

You hear about it.

You read about it.

You see it from afar.

Yet, you never know the love that you possess deep down on the inside

 until you birth a life for yourself.  In an instant, you go from being the number 

one person in your own life to a distant runner up.  No more just living it up for you.

 No more wondering aimlessly without a specific purpose of how the days may go. 

Life has been somewhat planned for the next 18 years or so.

BUT yet, it is a precious love that surpasses all others. 

Yes, even that between a man and a wife cannot compete 

between the bond of a mother and child. Unconditional love is what I’m talking about.

The type of love that makes you stay up all night laying on the floor beside a crib, 

because you want to be there to comfort a cough, fever, toothaches, and even a scary nightmare. 

This love I never knew has caused me to do things I never knew I could.

 It is like I have the strength and senses of superwoman when I sense something is wrong.

 I can stretch a dollar a mile long to ensure his needs are met. 

And when I say stretch a dollar, I mean give up things that used to stand for so much to me.

This love has made me laugh, smile, cry, and at times scream!!

A love I NEVER knew.

First words.

Potty training.

Learning to walk.

Singing the alphabet.

Counting to 10.

Heading to preschool.

The list can never be complete of the MANY, MANY milestones that a child will meet. 

To some the memories will fade, or it will just be a note in a doctor’s chart,

 or just another event that takes place in the lives of all children.

BUT in the heart of a mother, each moment leaves a mark 

on her heart that is forever engraved and wrapped in unconditional love.

This love I NEVER knew until I became a mom. And that day changed my life…………

for the better.

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Best wishes Mrs Pancakes as you enter into motherhood.

 It is life changing, but very rewarding. 

I pray you embrace the unconditional love that is waiting for you.

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Latorsha, is married and a mom of one. 

She enjoys motherhood and all that life has to offer. 

She loves to write, when time allows, 

and you can find her lurking around on 

twitter at www.twitter.com/anoptimisticmom