Get Married ONLY After 25...

Good Tuesday Ladies!!!!

I'm loving the HuffingtonPost as of late, 

they always have the most interesting articles to peruse.

You should definitely check them out when you get a minute.

An interesting article i read the other day was from a Public Relations Professional.

Jennifer Nagy, the writer reflects on how her status and her divorce.

This is her status as follows:

Current age - 29

                                                                 Divorced for - 8 months

Separated for - 1 year, 9 months

Age when I met my ex - 19

Age when I married - 24

Her argument is this, if people were married after 25years of age, 

the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

She argues that people under 25years of age,

 "are still discovering themselves; 

they are figuring out what is most important in their lives.

 They are discovering the joys (and heartache) 

of being in a relationship, and then the partying 

that often characterizes life between relationships. 

They are figuring out what their relationship "deal-breakers"

 are and who their most appropriate partners would be."

Jennifer is quick to remind us her claims are based solely on her own experiences 

BUT she reminds us that  National Center for Health Statistics,

 approximately 60 percent of marriages in which the

 couple marries between age 20 and 25 will end in divorce.

I'm thinking her claims are interesting and thought provoking.

I have sisters who got married before 25years of age and both are happily married.

One is going on 7 years, another is married well over 20 years.

Both were ready, willing and understood the undertaking of wedded bliss.

I was married well after 25 years of age and as much as i thought i was ready to be married...

i was NOT ready emotionally, spiritually and definitely dating Mr. Wrong!

So age, emotional readiness and marriage is all be relative to the individual.

Jennifer's experience is unique to her!

In my opinion, age plays a part in marriage 

however i don't believe it impacts heavily on whether two people will get  a divorce.  

After all, any two persons can decide to end a marriage regardless of their age.  

25years of age doesn't necessarily suggest maturity!

What does cause divorce however is when we jump into marriage 

without knowing ourselves, our partners and valuing the sacred institution of marriage,

 we may end up on the other side (divorce).

Question of the Day:

What do you think,

Should people wait to get married ONLY after 25years of age?

  

Ringless Pregnant Women & Mothers ...

Good Monday Morning...
i still don't have internet so i was unable to do an installment of LongLazySunday...
but my Sunday was long, not lazy & good!

Here's today's interesting blog post.
I read an article by Tamara of  Mocking Bird Don't Write entitled, 

Ringless & Married through Blogher and thought i would ponder it on my blog.  

Does it matter if you are married but choose not to wear a ring?
Is there judgement for women with children who do not wear a ring?

In her article, Tamara chose not to wear a ring after gaining weight from pregnancy.
When she is with her husband, she ays she is confident however
without her husband, there is a level of judgement she feels from others. 

Since i am still considered a newlywed
 (i think, I've only been married a year)
i wear my wedding ring ALL THE TIME!
I hardly ever take it off except to wash and put lotion in between my fingers.
I wear my ring because it's something i have done ever before i got married.
But Tamara's blog post made me think, "will there be judgement on me without a ring?"
Especially now that i am pregnant.  

Will others look at me with judgement, shake their heads and think
"there goes another unmarried pregnant black woman."
I think as much as your mind knows you are married without a ring,
a look or glance from someone else will make you think you are being judged.
And judgement stings like nasty words or a slap in the face. 

Tamara raises many important "what if" questions about ringless women and mothers.
Tamara wonders:
 "What if her husband had just passed away and wearing the ring hurt too much?
What if her religion views jewelry as unnecessary vanity and she is very much married?
Or what if she's divorced? Or what if she was never married?
Or what if she's just like me and simply can't fit into her ring?"

I am sure i have judged mothers, pregnant or with children without rings...
because as a Society we are so quick to believe wedding rings are the only symbol of love.
But Tamara reminds us that wedding rings are NOT the only symbol of love.
She reminds us there are many symbols of love
including the gentle caress a pregnant woman gives to her growing belly and the helping 

hand a mother gives to her small child after he has fallen.  

It's definitely easy to judge a pregnant woman or mother without a ring
but reading Tamara's article reminded me the wedding ring is NOT the only symbol of love.  

Love is more than a wedding ring.

Question of the Day?

Have you ever felt judgment because you weren't wearing a wedding ring?
Have you ever judged someone because they were NOT wearing a wedding ring?

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Marriage Humor...

Good Monday Morning Ladies...

It's the last day of April...i cannot believe it!

I thought we would end the month off with some humor.

Usually i hate those chain mails friends send my way 

BUT i loved the ones i received recently about marriage.

Marriage is just funny sometimes!  

They were soo funny so i thought i would share them with you!  

Wife:         'What are you doing?' Husband:     Nothing.Wife:         'Nothing...?  You've been reading our marriage   certificate  for an hour.' Husband:   'I was looking for an expiration date.' ----------------------------------------------- Wife :         'Do you want dinner?' Husband:     'Sure! What are my choices?' Wife:        'Yes or no.' ------------------------------------------- Wife: 'You always carry my photo in your wallet.. Why?' Hubby: 'When there is a problem, no matter how great, I look at your picture and the problem disappears.' Wife:   'You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you?' Hubby: 'Yes! I see your picture and ask myself what other problem can there be greater than this one?'------------------------------------------   Stress Reliever Girl:    'When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden.' Boy:     'It's very kind of you, darling, but I don't have any worries or troubles.' Girl:     'Well that's because we aren't married yet.'--------------------------------------------------- Son:      'Mum, when I was on the bus with Dad this morning, he told me to give up my seat to a lady.' Mom:   'Well, you have done the right thing.' Son:     'But mum, I was sitting on daddy's lap.'  ---------------------------------------------------- A newly married man asked his wife, 'Would you have married   me if my father hadn't left me a fortune?'    'Honey,' the woman replied sweetly, 'I'd have married you, NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE!'-----------------------------------------

Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I'll be yours forever. The guy replies: 'Thanks for the early warning.'

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A wife asked her husband: 'What do you like most in me, my pretty face or my sexy body?' He looked at her from head to toe and replied:   'I like your sense of humour!'

Husbands are husbands  A man was sitting reading his papers when his wife hit him on the  head  with a frying pan. 'What was that for?' the man asked. The wife replied 'That was for the piece of paper with the name Jenny on it that I found in your pants pocket'. The man then said 'When I was at the races last week Jenny was the name of the horse I bet on'. The wife apologized and went on with the housework. Three days later the man is watching TV when his wife bashes him on the head with an even bigger frying pan, knocking him unconscious. Upon re-gaining consciousness the man asked why she had hit again. Wife replied:  'Your Horse phoned'