Showing posts with label good marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label good marriage. Show all posts

Friday, June 1, 2012

Couples Who Dress Alike!!

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Happy Friday but most importantly Happy June!!!
You've heard of couples who look alike...
but what about couples who dress alike?

Remember Justin and Britney when they were dating?
Yup they dressed alike.

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And Will and Jada Smith do it too.

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And of course David & Victoria Beckham always seem to dress alike.

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But this couple, Joey and Mel Schwanke have taken this to a whole new level
And i couldn't help but share!

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The Schwankes have been married for 65years and dressing alike for 35years of them. 
The couple have 146 matching outfits, all custom made.
They say their longlasting relationship is not necessarily due to dressing alike
 but because they love and respect each other. 

Mrs. Schwanke says:
"To this day, if he does something for me I thank him, she says. 
"If we run into each other, we say excuse me.
 We fully respect each other and consider each other with every decision we make."

Mr. Pancakes and i will not be addressing alike (everyday) 
but i love the sentiment of being so close to your partner!!
And that i thought was beautiful and worth sharing!

If you want a smile on this lovely Friday...
Check out the full story here on HuffingtonPost.

Monday, March 12, 2012

March Money Madness: Get a Part Time Job!!!

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Wishing you all an awesome Monday!

If you know Dave Ramsey and his work then you are aware that "get  a part time job" 
is one of his most famous lines when you call in about money issues.  
I am NOT the most ardent follower of Dave Ramsey and ALL his principles 
BUT i do subscribe to most of them especially the one about getting a part time job.

Courtesy of Dave Ramsey
Dave Ramsey is one of those guys:
you either like him and his money principles and listen to his radio show regularly (Mrs. Pancakes)
OR you find him annoying/hypocrite at times but appreciate his principles and radio show  (Mr. Pancakes)
Or you just don't like him or his principles o his radio or his books.  
He is unconventional. 
 A little rough.  
And just a good 'ole Southern finance adviser that believes in his opinions 
because they are his!

There are seven steps he speaks about regularly called the, Seven Baby Steps
which i will talk about more specifically another day but in the meantime...
i wanted to talk about his other principles 
which i ascribe to and hope will help someone during March Money Madness!

Here are the principles i practice regularly:

1.  Get a Part Time Job
This one i have always done because i have always liked spending money.  
And learned quickly if i wanted extra things i needed extra money |
(which some refer to as their "cake and ice cream" money) hence the part time job.  
BUT when you follow Dave Ramsey, he speaks specifically about 
getting a part time job as a way to make extra money to PAY OFF debts and nothing else. 
Testimony: In 2010, i got a part-time job and was able to pay off my car, 
student loans & credit cards in less than two years.  
There is something about watching your debt decrease 
that increased my desire to work harder, make more money and pay off my debt.  
In between paying off my debt, we were able to pay cash for our wedding and honeymoon. 

2. Use Cash, NOT Credit Cards
Oooh this one was hard!  Dave says to use cash because it hurts more 
when you spend cash versus credit cards.  
With credit cards you don't feel the pain because the money is not tangible.  
When you use cash, you are more likely to be more careful with how you spend it.  
With credit cards, you spend money mindlessly.  
Testimony: I was the queen of using my credit card and paying later.  
Of course, paying later would end up being later and later.  
Let's reminisce for a moment, before i GAVE UP the CREDIT CARDS...
i traveled to Houston one year and spent over $1K on clothes, shoes, bags, jewelry.  
I felt like i was on an episode of What Not to Wear, i shopped so much.  
Oh the fun!!
But it took me forever to pay that money back and the interest.  
One year, I traveled to Europe like three times.
  Ahhh the good credit card days.  
Needless to say, credit cards were killing me and my finances.  
But it really hit home when i realized every time i received extra money from somewhere 
(work, income tax, sale of my condo), i had to use it to pay bills (credit card, student loan or car). 
 That's when it dawned on me...there was so much money i could be saving BUT i was using it to pay off bills.
At this rate, i would never have money IF i am always paying off credit cards.
After cutting up and closing all my credit cards, i have not looked back.
And now when the bank tellers try to convince me to get a credit card, my answer is simply,
 "No Thank you!"

3. Make a Budget
Everyone knows budgets help to keep you on track 
and if you do it diligently and regularly, it actually does.
Testimony:  This one i have NOT mastered as of yet but i am working on it.  
Most months, we have monies that are allocated to things like: 
rent, utitlies, phone, tithes, saving, spending money.  
The most important thing about making a budget is making sure you know what is coming up on a monthly basis and making sure your money lasts until the end of the month.  
This usually works IF there aren't emergencies that occur 
(but that's where your emergency funds comes in, more on this another day).

One has to follow in the principles of Dave Ramsey and his money principles at their own pace.
It took me a long time to become a believer BUT since i bought into it...it's helped me a great deal.
Both Mr. Pancakes and i ascribe to these three principles without fail 
and it's helped us individually and as a couple.

My suggestion, for the rest of March Money Madness 
try one of the following principles:
1.  Get a Part Time Job
2. Use Cash, NOT Credit Cards
3. Make a Budget
 and see what happens with your money!






Monday, February 20, 2012

Part of a 2-Some...

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Good Morning Friends...

it's Monday and i hope you are in great spirits!



two·some/ˈto͞osəm/



  1. A pair of people considered together.
  2. A game or dance for or involving two people.




I LOVE being married.
I LOVE being part of a 2-some.
I LOVE being part of this team called Team Pancakes.
There is something beautiful about spending everyday with my bestest friend
 in the world who makes me laugh and smile all the time.

Mr. Pancakes is definitely the Yin to my Yang.
He is the jelly to my peanut butter.
The Chocolate to my Chip.
The Sheldon to my Leonard.
The Martin to my Gina.
The Mickey to my Minnie Mouse.
The Downward to My Dog...

You get the drift...he is the perfect half to my pair.
Seriously, we fit together like no other.
All this being said, i LOVE being part of a 2-some.

HOWEVER...

you knew this was coming...
sometimes it's difficult being part of a 2-some because 
MOST if not ALL major decisions have to be checked out with my perfect pair.  
Because as part of Team Pancakes (our marriage),  it is important to make decisions together
 especially when it impacts the both of us.

That being said, when i want to do something and the hubby doesn't agree 
because in his eyes it may impact our lives negatively in the long run, i have to reconsider my wants.  
And as frustrating as this may be sometimes...i have to be in agreement with my husband 
because we are a 2-some and a team.

As a newlywed, learning to compromise my wants has definitely been challenging but i am learning, 
as the months pass by, it gets easier to make decisions in a 2-some!

Marriage is definitely a give and take.
And that's one lesson i am learning...but you know what....
it's getting easier everyday!


Question of the Day:
What makes it difficult to be part of a two-some/team?
How are you learning to compromise?




Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Marriage Mockery in the Media!

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Happy November lovely blog readers!
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I know most of us don't get our values about marriage in the media however there are some that do. 
And I know i just got into the marriage game
 BUT i wanted to get on my soap box today to tell some people
to STOP making marriage a mockery in the media. 
 I am not talking about people that actually TRY to make their marriages work against all odds. 
I am talking to those that get married just to get married.
Marriage is a life long committment and if you are NOT willing to try til the end...
just STOP IT...
don't get in the game. 
I am talking about the celebrities/people that get married just to get married.
I know Nike says: Just do it
BUT for those that are making a mockery of marriage in the media,
Just stop it!

2nd marriage; 72 days
1st Marriage, One month

Two marriages: 1st marriage-55hours
Two Marriage, 2nd one, married 2weeks
Marriage is difficult, at least give it sometime to work through your STUFF,
more than several weeks and months!
Stop marriage mockery in the media...just stop it!
Thank goodness, there are good ones out there,
they don't always make news in the media,
of course successful marriages doesn't sell,
but they do exist in the media, blogland and in real life!

Married 29 years
Denzel Washington and Wife
Almost 28 years


19 years


Okay, okay...i know they've been shacking up for over 25 years
but at least they are still together!
Dating for 25 years!
Am i the only one sick and tired of people making a mockery of marriage in the media?

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

A Ditty of Marriage!

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I found this poem on Brooke Burke's website, modernmom.com and loved it.
It said everything i believe about making marriage a good one and thought i would share it with you. I have a little girl crush on Brooke Burke so of course i was excited she felt the same way about marriage that i did! Hope you like it! (i am not sure about the female crushes...i am just going with it this week!)









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The Art Of A Good Marriage

Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

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I am striving everyday to be the best partner i can be to Mr. Pancakes 
and i believe he is doing the same thing.

Do you have any ditties that you go to about marriage, love or relationships?!