When Is It Too Late?

 

I was reading an article and this was the first few sentences: 
Having diabetes and being an older mother pose 
multiple health risks for both Halle Berry and her unborn child,
 but the latest advances in testing and medical care will 
go a long way to guard against problems, experts say.

Which got me thinking: When it is too late to carry a baby?

For some background...Halle is 46 and probably in awesome physical shape. 
She had her first child when she was 41.

Clearly our bodies can do anything but is there ever a time when it should be too late? 
Especially when there are potential risks to the mother and baby?

Should age even be considered when you are trying to get pregnant?
And is she giving false hope to many older women who want to become mothers?
And what about when the babies grow up and mom is much older?
Or should any of this even matter when we are considering motherhood?

I am the product of a much older parent and i think there
are a few things i might have missed out because of this.

Many questions I know but I have been thinking about all these questions
and thought it would make for a fun discussion....so please join in....

6 Things I Missed While Pregnant

My Body

before pregnancy i was on my way to a pretty amazing body.

I had just started running regularly...training for my half marathon!

Sushi 

especially spicy tuna...need i say more.

I can't help until i can go crazy with sushi...

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Sleeping 

on my belly that is...i was always a belly sleeper.

Hanky Panky

with my husband of course...it just hasn't been the same.

I went the complete opposite of how i usually feel...(TMI-i know)

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High Heels

i am not much of a high heeled feign 

but i do like an occasional high heel and i don't know 

how people are able to wear high heels during pregnancy but i never managed too.  

i can't wait to have the choice again.

Exercising

running...i was loving the feeling of my feet hitting the pavement.

And we were up to 9miles...

i managed to run/walk the half marathon 

but i want to be able to run the complete session.

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Ringless Pregnant Women & Mothers ...

Good Monday Morning...
i still don't have internet so i was unable to do an installment of LongLazySunday...
but my Sunday was long, not lazy & good!

Here's today's interesting blog post.
I read an article by Tamara of  Mocking Bird Don't Write entitled, 

Ringless & Married through Blogher and thought i would ponder it on my blog.  

Does it matter if you are married but choose not to wear a ring?
Is there judgement for women with children who do not wear a ring?

In her article, Tamara chose not to wear a ring after gaining weight from pregnancy.
When she is with her husband, she ays she is confident however
without her husband, there is a level of judgement she feels from others. 

Since i am still considered a newlywed
 (i think, I've only been married a year)
i wear my wedding ring ALL THE TIME!
I hardly ever take it off except to wash and put lotion in between my fingers.
I wear my ring because it's something i have done ever before i got married.
But Tamara's blog post made me think, "will there be judgement on me without a ring?"
Especially now that i am pregnant.  

Will others look at me with judgement, shake their heads and think
"there goes another unmarried pregnant black woman."
I think as much as your mind knows you are married without a ring,
a look or glance from someone else will make you think you are being judged.
And judgement stings like nasty words or a slap in the face. 

Tamara raises many important "what if" questions about ringless women and mothers.
Tamara wonders:
 "What if her husband had just passed away and wearing the ring hurt too much?
What if her religion views jewelry as unnecessary vanity and she is very much married?
Or what if she's divorced? Or what if she was never married?
Or what if she's just like me and simply can't fit into her ring?"

I am sure i have judged mothers, pregnant or with children without rings...
because as a Society we are so quick to believe wedding rings are the only symbol of love.
But Tamara reminds us that wedding rings are NOT the only symbol of love.
She reminds us there are many symbols of love
including the gentle caress a pregnant woman gives to her growing belly and the helping 

hand a mother gives to her small child after he has fallen.  

It's definitely easy to judge a pregnant woman or mother without a ring
but reading Tamara's article reminded me the wedding ring is NOT the only symbol of love.  

Love is more than a wedding ring.

Question of the Day?

Have you ever felt judgment because you weren't wearing a wedding ring?
Have you ever judged someone because they were NOT wearing a wedding ring?

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